OK, I said I wasn’t going to write about politics when I restarted my blog. But I just can’t resist.
In a spirit of fairness to the debate, I am a conservative. I want to reveal my bias before I climb onto the soap box. I also live in California. Californians voted on and ratified Prop. 22, which outlawed gay marriage. Recently, the California Supreme Court overturned the voice of the people and ruled Prop. 22 unconstitutional.
This week, my church, the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, will encourage members of California congregations to take an active role in promoting the proposed amendment to the California Constitution defining marriage as between a man and a woman to be on the ballot this November. I am somewhat ambivalent about social conservatism. Generally, government should butt out and let people make their own choices, whether good or bad and let people suffer the consequences of their choices. With gay marriage, it the undemocraticness of the gay position that gets me motivated — the insistence of a small minority of people to force the majority of people to accept and embrace a position I find immoral.
So what is the big deal with gay marriage anyhow? Gays already have all the same civil rights as married people, can live together, shop together, share a bed together. In other words, they have already forced the government to accept and embrace their position. So why are they so hell-bent on the right to be married?
Mr. Sulu, of Star Trek fame, summed up the gay position:
"The California Supreme Court . . . ruled that our Constitution provides for equal protection for all and that it cannot have marriage for one group and another form – domestic partnership – for another group. No more “separate but equal.†No more second-class citizenship."
The issue isn’t about "separate but equal," which is focused on how the government treats a group of people, but on the attitudes of people themselves.
The problem of the gay position is that they don’t fully understand the purpose of marriage. In other words, they don’t understand why marriage is marriage. Marriage is organizational principle about which families are created and administered — husband, wife, and children . Although gays can adopt children, they cannot ab initio have children and participate in the core function of a marriage. Children are most successful when raised in an environment with both a father and a mother present. Thus, a "gay family" is an artificial creation that doesn’t exist according to the laws of nature or according to the traditional purpose and function of getting married. A gay couple with children is a different social and emotional dynamic than a married couple with children. It simply isn’t the same as a family started with "marriage." Gay couples cannot provide children with the same nutritive environment as fostered by a father and a mother, each of whom impart very different social and emotional food to children.
Thus, gays shouldn’t be clamoring for a title that represents a wholly different family dynamic and environment than what their relationships offer. Even if you call it marriage, it will always be something different. An apple doesn’t become an orange simply by calling the apple an orange.
So why is having the name of "marriage" with all the attendant tradition etc. so important to gays? They have all the same rights with a title the aptly describes their relationship.
For gays, the battle for marriage is not about the title, or the issue of family, or any of the issues having to do with family or title. The marriage battle is a clever smokescreen for the real issue: insistence that society at large not only allow their lifestyle, but accept and embrace as correct, right, and holy. This is why they aren’t content with the same rights. Having the term "married" applied to their relationships blurs the distinction between the traditional family organizations and their unnatural relationships. By blurring the lines, the hope is that future generations come to fully accept homosexuality as correct, right, and holy. This is why they target young children in schools. This is why they have to have to crash the party of married people everywhere. This is what the debate is about, not rights, not equality, but acceptance of a lifestyle that many people in this country find repugnant.
Evidence of this argument? Again Mr. Sulu:
"With time, I know the opposition to same sex marriage, too, will be seen as an antique and discreditable part of our history."
Mr. Sulu can cast the argument in terms of intolerance and bigotry. Ironically, gays demand our tolerance of their position, but offer no tolerance to the viewpoints or voices (e.g., Prop 22) of those who disagree with their position. Gays are focused on pounding their round peg into the square hole of society (bad analogy), and have no tolerance or respect for the feelings of the majority of the people, the unchanging morality revealed in the Scriptures, or the democratic voice of the people. Perhaps that is why they have no problem that the California Supreme Court overturned the majority voice of Californians. I suppose next they will insist that they be called "heterosexuals."
For a religious examination, please see the The Family: a Proclamation to the World , promulgated by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints.
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